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11-06-2015, 12:59 PM
Many things have already been said. Things that have always worked for me:
- eat clean! Vitamins and minerals are crucial to your happiness;
- try to avoid sitting and lying down much, instead be active. Go work on your body in a gym or start doing martial arts or something. Really helpt. But most importantly, just be active in daily life.
- During autumn and winter, you might want to take a vitamin D supplement. I always do this now, I used to have winter depression like always but it really seems to help me.
- Accept your feelings. Accept that you are unhappy. Accept that you probably HATE being alone, and take time to just sit about and THINK instead of walking away from these feelings always. Cry if you must, crying is a good thing.
- Try to be in company of others often, but not always. Learn to love yourself.
As for myself, I recently made a sh**** of notes on life. How did I change from happy to unhappy (as for myself, I don't see myself as unhappy anymore)? What do I need in order to become happy again (relieve stress by resting, feeling proud of my achievements, stop drinking and smoking weed just to feel good (note that weed is legal where I live
)).
And I made many notes on what women find attractive. I used to be a quite attractive man, but women didn't want me recently. Why? Simply because when your head is full of negative thoughts and stress (note: stress stays in your body for a long time!), you will not feel free to be yourself, as if something restrains you from really being yourself. So on one side, I really wanted to be with a woman because I didn't want to be alone, and at the same time, women didn't want me because I was obviously taken with thoughts and didn't appear confident as I didn't feel comfortable like all the time.
Take your time to get some rest and to sort out your thoughts. Be angry, feel sad, try to accept those feelings first, and don't try to rush into dating and stuff because when you don't feel at ease with yourself, you will most likely be denied by all girls. I'm speaking from experience
- eat clean! Vitamins and minerals are crucial to your happiness;
- try to avoid sitting and lying down much, instead be active. Go work on your body in a gym or start doing martial arts or something. Really helpt. But most importantly, just be active in daily life.
- During autumn and winter, you might want to take a vitamin D supplement. I always do this now, I used to have winter depression like always but it really seems to help me.
- Accept your feelings. Accept that you are unhappy. Accept that you probably HATE being alone, and take time to just sit about and THINK instead of walking away from these feelings always. Cry if you must, crying is a good thing.
- Try to be in company of others often, but not always. Learn to love yourself.
As for myself, I recently made a sh**** of notes on life. How did I change from happy to unhappy (as for myself, I don't see myself as unhappy anymore)? What do I need in order to become happy again (relieve stress by resting, feeling proud of my achievements, stop drinking and smoking weed just to feel good (note that weed is legal where I live
)). And I made many notes on what women find attractive. I used to be a quite attractive man, but women didn't want me recently. Why? Simply because when your head is full of negative thoughts and stress (note: stress stays in your body for a long time!), you will not feel free to be yourself, as if something restrains you from really being yourself. So on one side, I really wanted to be with a woman because I didn't want to be alone, and at the same time, women didn't want me because I was obviously taken with thoughts and didn't appear confident as I didn't feel comfortable like all the time.
Take your time to get some rest and to sort out your thoughts. Be angry, feel sad, try to accept those feelings first, and don't try to rush into dating and stuff because when you don't feel at ease with yourself, you will most likely be denied by all girls. I'm speaking from experience