Feelings and issues

[Silverthorn]

I just don't feel like existing anymore, I wanna die ..

Talk to someone. Immediately.
If you don't want to talk to your parents or close relatives, seek professional help. If you are in college... many universities offer some sort of psychosocial counseling. The people there are trained to deal with such cases.


Either way, don't try to chase after girls in the hope they will pull you out of this void. This will not work, I speak from experience. Get your life sorted first, then deal with the rest. The fact that it's November makes me think that your gloominess is partially related to seasons. I don't know how old you are but, as cheesy as this sounds, you will learn to get over it. Maybe not this year, maybe not the next year, maybe not within the next decade. It will, however, get better eventually, even if that simply means that you learn to live with your inner demons.


Don't give a damn about how successful others are, always look after yourself first. If you don't feel like pursuing your hobbies, fine, just do something else. Take a walk outside, call a friend, whatever. The only thing to keep in mind is to stay occupied. Boredom is dangerous, so no matter how mediocre it is, always do something. Give yourself a positive mindset. Lie to yourself. Eventually, you will actually adapt that mindset.


Also, interact with other people. This might sound weird, but it's amazing how much talking to people you have never seen before helps.


But seriously, if everything else fails, seek medical attention.

[AmadisLFE]

Just to remind you Housemate, don t hesitate to ask us anything, if you need help on something big, like this one, just post about it and we will try to help you as best as we can .

@v Decades? I don t think you are over 20 haha. 1 Decade = 10 years.

[Hate]

Thanks for the support guys! I pulled my self toghther this want happen again
I just needed to say all that sh*t, it was stuck inside me for decades, now after saying that to you I feel much better.
can't thank you enough LFE ..

[MnM]

This feeling, sounds so familiar to me. I experienced the same kind of feeling sometime ago. This is nothing but you concentrating on others and not on yourself. This mostly happens when you feel lonely. The better way to get rid of is by spending time usefully. You'll only become more and more sad and hurt yourself mentally if you are idle. Trust me, go do some physical exercise, interact with people. This might be due to your desire to achieve something but not knowing where to begin. Set a goal based on your research. Hope this is of some help.

[Marko]

Thanks for the support guys! I pulled my self toghther this want happen again
I just needed to say all that sh*t, it was stuck inside me for decades, now after saying that to you I feel much better.
can't thank you enough LFE ..

woaah, hold on.. this is not something you can solve in 6 hours. You probably had some good time with friends and you don't feel it anymore so you think everything is great again, but believe me, it will strike again, ..and again. Prepare yourself.
All of us deal with same sh*t, stay strong.

[WatermelonOwl]

I haven't read all the previous posts on this topic but here's my two second advice: if you ever feel really bad about life in general at times, you REALLY have to just keep yourself busy - even if with just petty little things, whatever that keeps your mind off the situation you're currently in. Exercise, hobby, learn something new

[Azriel]

woaah, hold on.. this is not something you can solve in 6 hours. You probably had some good time with friends and you don't feel it anymore so you think everything is great again, but believe me, it will strike again, ..and again.

This is truth. When you feel like this, your thoughts fluctuate (keep changing) a lot between good and bad. You have to try and keep yourself thinking "I'm okay".

Whenever you feel like giving up, remember "these times will pass". No matter how bad, it will go away some time.

Here's a tip, go run, do some push ups, go to a playground and do some pull-ups. It takes your mind away from the bad thoughts, and if you do it enough (spend an hour every 2~3 days), you eventually become physically strong, and that can make you feel mentally strong.



Azriel~

[ShonenTheJumper]

Damn, mate. I'm totally new to this site, but It seems you're facing a problem which I face on a daily basis too. Well, depression is really common for me, it's in my genes to be honest, but I get over it after some time. I know how it feels.

[Hate]

woaah, hold on.. this is not something you can solve in 6 hours.

It lasted 6 mounths actually .. I never talked about it ..

You probably had some good time with friends and you don't feel it anymore so you think everything is great again,

I didn't

but believe me, it will strike again, ..and again. Prepare yourself.
All of us deal with same sh*t, stay strong.

This is life, "We fall only to learn how to pick ourselfs up again" ....

[Memento]

Many things have already been said. Things that have always worked for me:
- eat clean! Vitamins and minerals are crucial to your happiness;
- try to avoid sitting and lying down much, instead be active. Go work on your body in a gym or start doing martial arts or something. Really helpt. But most importantly, just be active in daily life.
- During autumn and winter, you might want to take a vitamin D supplement. I always do this now, I used to have winter depression like always but it really seems to help me.
- Accept your feelings. Accept that you are unhappy. Accept that you probably HATE being alone, and take time to just sit about and THINK instead of walking away from these feelings always. Cry if you must, crying is a good thing.
- Try to be in company of others often, but not always. Learn to love yourself.

As for myself, I recently made a sh**** of notes on life. How did I change from happy to unhappy (as for myself, I don't see myself as unhappy anymore)? What do I need in order to become happy again (relieve stress by resting, feeling proud of my achievements, stop drinking and smoking weed just to feel good (note that weed is legal where I live )).
And I made many notes on what women find attractive. I used to be a quite attractive man, but women didn't want me recently. Why? Simply because when your head is full of negative thoughts and stress (note: stress stays in your body for a long time!), you will not feel free to be yourself, as if something restrains you from really being yourself. So on one side, I really wanted to be with a woman because I didn't want to be alone, and at the same time, women didn't want me because I was obviously taken with thoughts and didn't appear confident as I didn't feel comfortable like all the time.

Take your time to get some rest and to sort out your thoughts. Be angry, feel sad, try to accept those feelings first, and don't try to rush into dating and stuff because when you don't feel at ease with yourself, you will most likely be denied by all girls. I'm speaking from experience